What is the definition of a RIDER? 


Is a rider a person who stays with you after you cheat, beat, hurt and lie to? A person who stays down with you no matter how many times you’ve done them wrong? A person who stays with you after you finish fighting and breaking them down? A person who takes you back after you humiliate them time after time?
     Or is a rider a person who is down and out for you? Who will always make sure you are good? Uplift you when you are down? A person who will stop at nothing to make sure you are leveled, well taken care of and push you to succeed? A person who truly cares for you and will be there for you whether it’s mentally, spiritually and physically? When you have nothing or are at your lowest peak they are consistently there trying to help you get back on your own two feet. 

  One can go on and on asking all these types of questions about what’s a rider, but the most important question is what category defines what a rider is to you?

   Not to long along someone posted a meme that read, “no matter how many bitches he fucked and after all the wrong he had done she stood by him she’s a rider.”

   I was appalled thinking to myself what type of message this meme was giving to both men and women. It’s obviously sending the message to both men and women that to be a rider a male must have a female who will stay with them through all the bullshit he puts her through. Or if a woman doesn’t stay with you after you’ve done her wrong, she isn’t a rider? Which in my opinion is complete BS!!!!

   Everyone has their own thoughts and opinions on the definition. No one can’t dictate what a female allows or tolerates a man to do to them or what a man put a woman through. One thing that I do feel strongly about is people should not promote the term ‘rider’ in a demeaning way as stated above. 

    Overall the meme pinpoints women not being riders. So you’re telling me that she wasn’t a rider when you had no money and was busting her ass making sure ends were met, while you were good and ate every night? She wasn’t a rider when she stayed in the hospital with you while you were sick? She wasn’t a rider the times you had no one in your corner and gave you the strength you needed to move forward? She wasn’t a rider when she did something good for you to show you that she genuinely cared for you, loved you, supported you financially, physically and mentally???? 

  No. The meme states women are only riders when they stay with men after all the pain you cause! Truth be told That’s not a rider!!!

   If you decide to stay with your significant other while enduring endless pain or on the other hand dragging them through the mud while doing them dirty…that’s your business. And if you two still decide to be together that’s your prerogative. But don’t promote the term ‘rider’ if it’s not something that makes people feel good about themselves because what social media and this age of technology is feeding us on a daily is false pretenses. 

    We as people are all still growing on a daily, no matter the age. We all make mistakes but don’t judge someone’s loyalty based off their decision to walk away from a toxic situation. They might have been a real ‘rider’ being good to you but you did not realize it because you thought a rider was a door mat or someone who’s obligated to deal with your BS. THAT’S NOT THE CASE.
          Learn the difference!

Happy New Year!

Today marks a New Year, a New Month, and a New Day. You are stepping into a new realm with so many new and exciting adventures. Do not let the pain and fear from yesterday travel into the new year. Do not stress over things you can not control, Do not worry about what happen yesterday, last week and the last few months. Today gives you an opportunity to start fresh and start new. Bring the new year in with great energy, new goals and positivity. Walk away from anything and anyone who’s bringing you down. Leave those people with their negative energy and negative aura behind. You must prepare yourself for the new devils or even old demons to come. You will get everything you want. Just continue to keep faith and work towards your goals.
You may not see now but the new house/apartment you been waiting for “you are going to get that”, then new job promotion you been waiting for “you are going to get that”, the ring you been waiting for “you are going to get that”, the degree you’ve worked so hard for “you are going to get that”, that girl/guy you been eyeing “you are going to get that”, the family you been waiting for “you are going to get that”, the love you been waiting for “you going to get that, the money you been waiting for you are you to get that”, I can go on and on about all the blessings you are about to receive but it’s up to you to believe. There’s no time to waste!! It’s time to step out and show out!

May this year continue to bless you with great opportunities, Love, finances, success and happiness. This is your year!!! Claim what is yours!!!

Happy New Year!!