Happy International Women’s Day💕

Empowering Women’s Day!!!

    Being a Woman to me…..It’s to be Powerful why? Because we birth this Nation Duuuaahhhhhh without us there would be no you. To be a Woman is to be fearless, Is to be confident, Is to be a go getter not a gold digger, To be Independent, To be a Nurturer, Just to be able to wear many hats to transition to who ever you need to be in that moment.

     Women are phenomenal, We as women don’t get enough credit, we don’t get enough respect, We don’t get enough praise as we should and it sad because we are one of the most beautifulest creatures on earth, We give life, We lose life to give life, We ruin our bodies sometimes we lose our minds, It’s  just so much that comes with being a woman and we are just treated like shit.

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~QV, 2017

Women’s Crush Wednesday 

I dedicate today’s W.C.W to all the beautiful women out there. Hey Girl,  You are the shit, beauty runs so deep, it pours from the inside out. You all are queens, any man would be lucky to have you. Your children are blessed to you have mothers’ like you. You are so precious, nothing in this world can compare. To find a woman who’s beautiful from the inside and out is so Rare. Your appearance does not define who you are, it’s your mental, your spirit and your heart. 

     Girl, you are fine!!! Do not let society tell you that your features are not accepted because they are different. Be your own WOMAN, be YOU, be an INDIVIDUAL, be the woman society needs and not the illusion social media portrays. Girllll!!!!!!! You better work!!!! Fix that crown, it’s tilting a little, you must always remember that you are royalty. Your worth is more than a few dollars, gifts, shoes, clothes, and Bags. Your worth is something money can’t buy. As women, we are all unique in our own individual way for a REASON; You can not be her, she can not be you. That’s the beauty of individuality. We were not put on this earth to seek validation from no one or worship no one. We have to learn how to worship ourselves, Learn to LOVE who you are.We are GODS, CREATORS, SURVIVORS, WARRIORS!!!! Never forget, you hold the power! 

Thoughts on the Immigration Executive order

    What is this world coming to!!  It is so much going on, I can not keep up. I feel sad for everyone who’s going through the immigration Ban. This could be anyone of us, our family, our friends, it’s heartbreaking. Growing up, talking to the “immigrant children” They would speak so highly of America and how grateful they are to be a part of this great land, how their families came here for a better life. Fast forward to present day, The country immigrants once viewed as so amazing and so great is now showing them they do not matter. 

The same people who lived in this country happy for many years , who helped built houses in this country, who started families in this country are now being rejected because they were not born in here !!! This is so devastating.
   But Why should I care? I am an “American” (rolling eyes) “yeah right” People of color are Americans but they are still being targeted and killed today, By those who feel that they are Superior. I care because right is right and wrong is wrong!! This is so wrong!!! It should not matter about a person’s race or religion they are still HUMAN!!!  

       People come here for a better opportunity for themselves and for their families. Everything they worked hard for is literally being ripped from them right before their eyes. This is not only affecting one group, It’s affecting the nation.      

      Why is it that people are judge based off their own beliefs, race, choices and identity?  Growing up, They teach us that we are the owners of our bodies and we are the ones who endures the consequences of our life choices. So why do people feel it’s ok to judge, look down on others or hurt others? How could this be the land of the free when there are executive orders in play to keep people from trying to live the best way they know how? Oh I get it, It’s the land of the free to a certain extent. It’s a crime to be anything other than what the government implies, Like what the fuck!! 

    When will the discrimination stop??? How is it that it is against the law to discriminate at work, at school, for housing, hospital and anywhere else in America, but it’s ok for the COMMANDER IN CHIEF to discriminate on the people of this NATION. You suppose to lead by example. It’s a deeper than what we think and what they are telling us, but everything will come to light soon. 


The Father of Black History Month

    Did you know that black history month began as a weekend called Negros history week. A special program created by an Historian Name Carter G Woodson to encourage people to learn about the history, the culture and to celebrate the achievements of Negros. It started February 1926 the week of Abraham Lincoln and Frederick Douglas birthdays. Later on, one week of celebration turned into a whole Month to honor Woodson’s Legacy.  

     This month we honor those who took a stand, died and fought for freedom, inclusion, social justice, human rights and equality. The fight isn’t over, we are still fighting today. Thank you to Those who’ve paved the way for us, Not only through movements for change but also for your CREATIVITY. Creating things & products we use today, The poems we read today, The messages we share today, The History and lessons we learn today, The culture we have today, The marches we still do today. But most importantly thank you for giving us the courage to take a stand to fight for what we believe in knowing we can make change!! 

        Happy Black History Month!!!!

Message of today is 

In order to be proficient you have to be a beginner, everyone has to start someone where!! Don’t be afraid to jump out the window and spread your wind and fly you will have people who will doubt you, you will have people who will talk about you, you will have people who will try to break you down but don’t let that deter you from you dream!! Move forward each day, continue to keep pushing! it’s going to get hard trust me It is but you have to stay true to yourself stay true to your craft and overtime you ll start to see that everything will slowly fall into place! 

Today’s Message: 

    Today’s message is for anyone who is feeling sad or down today for whatever reason. Do not be sad or down, Raise your head high, You are an amazing person, you have so much potential and you have a lot going for yourself, you have a good head on your shoulders, you have so many reasons to be happy and so much more to be thankful for.               

    No one or nothing can make you happy, you can only make yourself happy. People or things are not supposed to make you happy they are only supposed to enhance your happiness. Your happiness and joy comes from within you.         

      Today, You are probably feeling discouraged and you may have a lot going on but don’t worry!! You have to keep pushing, keep having faith and everything will fall into place. I know, It’s so hard to stay happy because anything can fuck up one’s mood. It’s all about mentally preparing yourself. If you Lift your spirits, continue to think positive, block out negativity and demand your power back from the universe. You will see that you are invincible.      

    Keep in mind, no one should have power over you to make you change your mood; do not entertain worthless situations that could pull you out of your character . When you finally realize you have full control over yourself, in the way you act, how you think and the way you feel. Then, You will slowly start seeing the shift in your life. Positive vibes only!! In order to see change you have to start changing the way you think and the way you view situations. Today will be a good day!!!! No worries you got this!!!! 

What is the definition of a RIDER? 


Is a rider a person who stays with you after you cheat, beat, hurt and lie to? A person who stays down with you no matter how many times you’ve done them wrong? A person who stays with you after you finish fighting and breaking them down? A person who takes you back after you humiliate them time after time?
     Or is a rider a person who is down and out for you? Who will always make sure you are good? Uplift you when you are down? A person who will stop at nothing to make sure you are leveled, well taken care of and push you to succeed? A person who truly cares for you and will be there for you whether it’s mentally, spiritually and physically? When you have nothing or are at your lowest peak they are consistently there trying to help you get back on your own two feet. 

  One can go on and on asking all these types of questions about what’s a rider, but the most important question is what category defines what a rider is to you?

   Not to long along someone posted a meme that read, “no matter how many bitches he fucked and after all the wrong he had done she stood by him she’s a rider.”

   I was appalled thinking to myself what type of message this meme was giving to both men and women. It’s obviously sending the message to both men and women that to be a rider a male must have a female who will stay with them through all the bullshit he puts her through. Or if a woman doesn’t stay with you after you’ve done her wrong, she isn’t a rider? Which in my opinion is complete BS!!!!

   Everyone has their own thoughts and opinions on the definition. No one can’t dictate what a female allows or tolerates a man to do to them or what a man put a woman through. One thing that I do feel strongly about is people should not promote the term ‘rider’ in a demeaning way as stated above. 

    Overall the meme pinpoints women not being riders. So you’re telling me that she wasn’t a rider when you had no money and was busting her ass making sure ends were met, while you were good and ate every night? She wasn’t a rider when she stayed in the hospital with you while you were sick? She wasn’t a rider the times you had no one in your corner and gave you the strength you needed to move forward? She wasn’t a rider when she did something good for you to show you that she genuinely cared for you, loved you, supported you financially, physically and mentally???? 

  No. The meme states women are only riders when they stay with men after all the pain you cause! Truth be told That’s not a rider!!!

   If you decide to stay with your significant other while enduring endless pain or on the other hand dragging them through the mud while doing them dirty…that’s your business. And if you two still decide to be together that’s your prerogative. But don’t promote the term ‘rider’ if it’s not something that makes people feel good about themselves because what social media and this age of technology is feeding us on a daily is false pretenses. 

    We as people are all still growing on a daily, no matter the age. We all make mistakes but don’t judge someone’s loyalty based off their decision to walk away from a toxic situation. They might have been a real ‘rider’ being good to you but you did not realize it because you thought a rider was a door mat or someone who’s obligated to deal with your BS. THAT’S NOT THE CASE.
          Learn the difference!

Happy New Year!

Today marks a New Year, a New Month, and a New Day. You are stepping into a new realm with so many new and exciting adventures. Do not let the pain and fear from yesterday travel into the new year. Do not stress over things you can not control, Do not worry about what happen yesterday, last week and the last few months. Today gives you an opportunity to start fresh and start new. Bring the new year in with great energy, new goals and positivity. Walk away from anything and anyone who’s bringing you down. Leave those people with their negative energy and negative aura behind. You must prepare yourself for the new devils or even old demons to come. You will get everything you want. Just continue to keep faith and work towards your goals.
You may not see now but the new house/apartment you been waiting for “you are going to get that”, then new job promotion you been waiting for “you are going to get that”, the ring you been waiting for “you are going to get that”, the degree you’ve worked so hard for “you are going to get that”, that girl/guy you been eyeing “you are going to get that”, the family you been waiting for “you are going to get that”, the love you been waiting for “you going to get that, the money you been waiting for you are you to get that”, I can go on and on about all the blessings you are about to receive but it’s up to you to believe. There’s no time to waste!! It’s time to step out and show out!

May this year continue to bless you with great opportunities, Love, finances, success and happiness. This is your year!!! Claim what is yours!!!

Happy New Year!!